Picture of the Day: Zuccotti Park, New York City. One of Occupy’s more adorable protesters: Occupup! July 11th.
Credit: Eduardo Munoz/Reuters. Via.
This is my first tattoo, and probably my last. It says “Non Carbarundum Illegitimi”, which means “Don’t let the bastards get you down”. Its a mock latin phrase that gained popularity just after WWII. I got it because my grandfather used to say this to my mom, and my mom to me. My grandfather passed away 2 days into the new year, and this is a tribute to him. It’s also written in my mom’s handwriting, and located on my left side, close to my heart forever. It was done by Danny Derrick at San Luis Tattoo Co.
Heading to SXSW next week? Not able to go? Here’s a hand selected playlist by me of some of the amazing bands playing! Click here to listen!
Photograph: Brian J. Clark/AP
Two women share historic kiss at US Navy ship’s return
For the first time since the repeal of ‘don’t ask, don’t tell,’ a same sex couple takes part in a traditional public embrace.
President Obama signed the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” into law one year ago today.
I know I’m late in the game in reblogging this, but too bad.
Happy 10th Birthday to the Euro. Although in the midst of economic crisis and political integration debates, nobody’s celebrating it much right now… most EU countries are marking the event with minimal celebrations, many simply circulating a commemorative coin.
Photo: Sean Gallup/Getty.
Classic: Important Mario moustache chart.
Reject or Reclaim? Sluts, Prudes and Feminism
One of the pretty cool things going on in feminism today is the backlash against the idea that the way a woman dresses makes her in any way to blame for rape or sexual harassment. This past January a Toronto policeman advised York University students that “Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimised,” sparking a huge response called Slutwalk. The driving points behind Slutwalk are that A) You can’t blame a woman’s rape on her clothes, demeanor or reputation, and B) women should reclaim and celebrate the notion of being a “slut.”
Point A I support unequivocally, but point B I’m not so sure about. I think continued use of the word slut maintains that pernicious dichotomy that tells women that they’re sluts or prudes, sexually promiscuous or not sexual enough. I don’t think those words, with all the judgments and falsehoods attached, can honestly be reclaimed in a way that empowers women. Proud to be a “slut” is not the same as “proud of my own sexual decisions” or “proud not to let society shame me for having a sex life.” Reclaiming the words that shame women daily is celebration of the idea that women only fall into two overly-generalised categories. I don’t think it’s possible to take the shame or stigma out of the word slut because the shame and stigma is inherent in the notion of separating out and marking women who are seen as sexualised. I’m all for a no-labels movement when it comes to my sex life and the sex lives of others.
Women should live free from the notion that their sexual decisions make them one of two kinds of people. (And I should note that it often seems like one minute a woman’s actions make her a slut and the next minute a prude.)
Salon.com sex blogger Tracy Clark-Flory wrote it beautifully in her own column, In Defense of Prudes: “I’m tired of the polarizing rhetoric: Are you a prude or a slut? You know what, I’m neither. I understand the concept of re-appropriating slurs, and that many people find it freeing and empowering. Also, political discourse doesn’t exactly lend itself to nuance and subtlety, so shocking slogans can be tremendously effective. On a personal level, though, this kind of reactive language can feel awfully limiting. I’m not a political caricature, and neither is my sexuality.” Rock on.